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June 15, 2023

Should I Let My Teen Listen To Secular Music

As parents, we often worry about the impact of music on our teenagers. One question that frequently arises is, “Should I let my teen listen to secular music?” In this article, we will explore the different aspects of secular music and provide insights to help you make an informed decision. We’ll also discuss ways to approach secular music with your teenagers, so you can have meaningful conversations and understand their perspective.

What is Considered Secular Music?

Secular music refers to any music that is not explicitly religious or spiritual in nature. It encompasses a wide range of genres, styles, and themes, from pop and rock to rap to electronic dance music. While some secular music may convey positive messages and values, it is essential to recognize that it can also contain lyrics and themes that may be considered inappropriate, offensive, or in conflict with your family’s beliefs and values.

The diverse nature of secular music means that it can offer listeners a rich tapestry of perspectives and experiences. However, as a parent, it’s crucial to be discerning and engage in open conversations with your teen about the music they listen to. By understanding their preferences and the messages conveyed in their chosen songs, you can help guide them in making informed decisions about the secular music they consume, ensuring it aligns with their values and beliefs.

What the Bible Says About Music

The Bible does not explicitly address secular music, but it does provide guidance on the role of music in our lives. Here are some Bible verses that can offer insight:

  • Psalm 150:1-6 (NIV): Praise the Lord. Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens. Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness. Praise him with the sounding of the trumpet, praise him with the harp and lyre, praise him with tambourine and dancing, praise him with the strings and pipe, praise him with the clash of cymbals, praise him with resounding cymbals. Let everything that has breath praise the Lord. Praise the Lord.
  • Ephesians 5:19-20 (NIV): Speak to one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
  • Colossians 3:16 (NIV): Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.

These verses emphasize the importance of using music to worship and praise God, and to encourage and uplift one another. While they don’t directly address secular music, they serve as a reminder to consider the impact of the music we listen to on our spiritual well-being. For more insights on the spiritual aspect of music and its role in the Bible, watch our video, ‘A Joyful Sound‘ from the Music Conversation Kit.

The Impact of Technology on the Music Industry

Technology has revolutionized the music industry, making it easier than ever for artists to produce and distribute their music. Streaming platforms like Spotify and Apple Music have given listeners access to millions of songs from around the world, allowing them to discover new artists and genres with just a few clicks. This increased accessibility has broadened the range of musical influences and styles that teenagers are exposed to, fostering a more diverse and global music culture.

However, while this has made it more convenient to discover new music, it has also made it more challenging for parents to monitor and control the content their teens are exposed to. With so much music readily available, it can be difficult for parents to keep up with the latest trends and messages in popular music. This can make it harder to have open and informed conversations about the music their teens listen to and how it aligns with their family’s values. For more resources on media, technology, and their impact on parenting, check out our Media & Technology page.

Pros of Letting Your Teen Listen to Secular Music

Allowing your teen to listen to secular music can have several benefits. First, it exposes them to a diverse range of musical styles, genres, and artists, which can foster a deeper appreciation for the art of music itself. This exposure can help your teen develop their musical tastes and creativity and even inspire them to learn an instrument or write their own songs. Furthermore, secular music often addresses a variety of themes and issues that can encourage critical thinking and promote understanding of different perspectives. You can watch the ‘Order From Chaos‘ video from our Music Conversation Kit to further explore the connection between music and humanity.

Moreover, engaging with secular music allows your teen to connect with peers and participate in social activities. Music plays a significant role in youth culture, and sharing musical interests can help teenagers build friendships and find a sense of belonging. By being open to secular music, your teen can develop a well-rounded perspective on the world and learn to navigate diverse cultural experiences. Music has a long history of challenging the status quo and providing a voice for the voiceless, as explored in our video, ‘The Sound of Change,’ also from the Music Conversation Kit.

Cons of Letting Your Teen Listen to Secular Music

One of the primary concerns with allowing your teen to listen to secular music is the potential exposure to inappropriate or offensive content. Some secular songs contain explicit language or sexual themes or promote violence and substance abuse. These messages can be harmful to your teen’s emotional and spiritual well-being, especially if they’re not equipped to evaluate the content they consume critically. As a parent, it’s essential to be aware of the music your teen is listening to and be prepared to have conversations about any problematic themes.

Additionally, excessive consumption of secular music can lead to an imbalanced worldview, where your teen may prioritize worldly values over their faith. This imbalance can harm their spiritual growth and weaken their connection with God. It’s crucial to strike a balance between secular and religious influences in your teen’s life, helping them maintain a solid spiritual foundation. Encourage them to explore Christian music as well, which can provide an alternative source of inspiration and spiritual nourishment while still offering diverse styles and genres to enjoy.

How to Approach Secular Music with Your Teenagers

When considering “Should Christians listen to secular music?” and approaching secular music with your teen, it is crucial to maintain open lines of communication and provide guidance without being overly controlling. To achieve this, it’s essential to understand the reasons behind your teen’s music preferences, the artists producing the music, the messages being conveyed, and the intentions and feelings your teen has when listening to secular music. This way, you can engage in meaningful conversations, encourage critical thinking, and establish clear boundaries regarding the type of music your teen is allowed to listen to.

Understanding Why Your Teens Like Particular Music

It’s essential to understand the reasons behind your teen’s music preferences. Are they drawn to a particular artist’s sound, style, or message? By understanding their motivations, you can have more meaningful conversations about their choices and help them think critically about the music they listen to.

Understand Who is Producing the Music

Research the artists and their backgrounds to gain a better understanding of the music your teen listens to. Knowing the context and the artists’ intentions can provide valuable insights into the messages and themes present in their music.

Understand the Message the Music is Conveying

Listen to the music and pay attention to the lyrics to understand the messages being conveyed. This will help you discern whether the music aligns with your family’s values and beliefs and guide your conversations with your teen.

What is Your Heart Behind Listening to This Music?

Ask your teen about their intentions and feelings when listening to secular music. Are they seeking inspiration, entertainment, or emotional connection? Understanding their heart behind listening can help you have a more meaningful discussion about their choices and the impact of the music on their lives.

Our Conversation Kit on Music is a great comprehensive resource to help you prepare to engage in meaningful conversations about music with your teenager.

Engaging with Your Teen Through Secular Music

  • Listen together: Take the time to listen to secular music with your teen, and use it as an opportunity to engage in meaningful conversations. Discuss the lyrics, themes, and messages present in the music, and explore how they align with your family’s values and beliefs.
  • Encourage critical thinking: Help your teen develop the skills to analyze the music they listen to critically. Encourage them to consider the intentions of the artists, the messages being conveyed, and the impact these messages may have on their thoughts and emotions.
  • Set boundaries: While it is important to be open and understanding, it is also essential to establish clear boundaries regarding the type of music your teen is allowed to listen to. Communicate your expectations and be willing to discuss any concerns or questions your teen may have.

So, Should You Let Your Teen Listen to Secular Music?

The decision to let your teen listen to secular music ultimately depends on your family’s values, beliefs, and your teen’s maturity level. It’s essential to have open and honest conversations with your teen about the music they listen to, encouraging them to think critically about the messages and themes. By understanding their preferences and engaging with them in thoughtful discussions, you can help your teen make informed decisions about the music they choose to listen to. To help you reflect on the impact of music on emotions and beliefs, watch the video ‘The Law of Life‘ from the Axis Music Conversation Kit.

Discussion Questions to Talk to Your Teen:

  1. Does the music you enjoy make you feel connected to a greater community?
  2. What about that community do you appreciate?
  3. Why do you think the human heart and mind enjoy music so much?
  4. Do you think you listen to music to match your mood or to change it?
  5. Has a song ever made you think about something in a different way? Has a song ever changed what you believe? When could that be a good thing? When could it not be a good thing?

Engaging in meaningful conversations about secular music with your teenagers is essential in guiding them to make informed choices about the music they consume. As you navigate this journey with your teen, remember the words from Philippians 4:8 (NIV): “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” By understanding the reasons behind their preferences and the messages in the music, you can foster open communication and critical thinking and help your teens align their choices with your family’s values and beliefs.

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