Snapchat took the world by storm, capturing teens’ attention like Facebook did in its infancy. And while its popularity remains high, adults everywhere are still scratching their heads as to why. Now with more features that increase its popularity and continue to be mimicked by other platforms, it’s important that we parents understand how it works, why it’s so popular, and how to have formative conversations about it with our teens.
A communication app that allows users to exchange pictures and videos that expire (disappear) after the amount of time a user chooses, between 1 and 10 seconds. Users can also exchange private chat messages that can be saved, and pictures/videos can be screenshotted by the receiver (the sender will be notified if this happens—unless, of course, a user knows how to get around the notification— but they cannot stop the receiver from doing so). Currently, phone calls can also be made.
A set of photos or videos that can be made public. The story is only viewable for 24 hours, but other users can view it an unlimited number of times during that window. (Recently, both Instagram and Facebook copied Snapchat by adding a story feature to their platforms.)
When a user wants to put a video or a picture in their “story,” they have the option to place it as “My Story” or “Our Story.” My Story is specific to a user and allows every one of the user’s friends to see the video or picture. Our Story is specific to an area, so it’s essentially the collective story being told by all the users in one location. A user can post a video or picture to an area’s story (e.g. a concert, sporting arena, college campus, etc.; see Snap Maps below), which allows everyone in that area to see the video or picture.
A record of how many days in a row two users have Snapped (not chatted) each other. It’s denoted by the fire ????emoji and a number, which indicates how long that streak has been going on. If an hourglass ⌛️emoji appears next to the fire emoji, it means that the streak will expire unless both users Snap each other soon.
The emojis mark how often a user interacts with other users, creating a hierarchy of friendship. It’s a private feature, meaning a user’s friends can’t see who that user’s “best friend” is. Check out Snapchat’s official explanation of all the different emojis and what they mean.
Interactive maps that are automatically tagged with a location when a user uploads a picture. Basically, they share the current location of the user with whoever is approved to see the location.
To access them, the first time a user opens the Snap Map (by pinching/zooming out of the camera screen), they are prompted to share their location with Snapchat. After accepting the prompt, the user is then asked to set their privacy setting. There are three levels: All My Friends (which allows anyone on a user’s friend list to see their location), Select Friends (which allows the user to decide which friends can see their location), and Ghost Mode (which means no one but the user can see their location). A user can select one level, then easily and quickly select another at any point. It should be noted that, after negative feedback, Snapchat made it so that the user’s location only updates while Snapchat is open. Adding to your Story will also add a marker on the map until that Story expires.
There also is an explore feature where the user can click on any specific area in the world and see the stories specific to that area. For example, a person in Columbus, OH can choose to post a public story to that area and someone from Colorado Springs, CO can view it.
The Discover section (accessed by swiping all the way to right) is a place where brands can post their own curated stories for users to view, as well as where new original TV shows, made specifically for Snapchat, are found. As is true for traditional media outlets, the content in this section is full of ideas, some good and some bad, but it’s much harder to monitor what users are viewing. Also, one’s “Snap score” is a measurement of how often one interacts with others on the app.
By swiping left from the main screen, a user accesses the Discover page (see image). A user’s friends’ stories appear at the top of the page, underneath which are rows of stories from brands and celebrities, which are categorized as “For You.” If a user decides he/she doesn’t want to see content from a brand or a celebrity, he/she can simply tap and hold on that tile until a dialogue box (see second image) appears, then select “Hide.” (One can also tap and hold, then select “Subscribe” to be notified when that brand posts new stories.)
Clearly, Snapchat can’t be modified enough to keep a user from finding or stumbling upon objectionable or age-inappropriate content. This may play into one’s decision as to what age a child should be allowed to be on the platform, if at all.
However, we highly recommend that we parents approach the app and our children’s desires to use it as an opportunity for conversation and discipleship, rather than simply writing it off as dangerous and inappropriate and telling our kids to never speak of it. Ultimately, our goal as parents should be to train our children to choose to walk away from content that hurts them or causes them to love God less (rather than making that decision for them). That is more easily accomplished by helping them see why content is harmful and allowing them to ask questions and be honest, not by issuing an executive order or saying “Because I said so.” (See below.)
Snapchat is very private, and largely the appeal is that whatever is sent doesn’t have to be permanently out there for anyone to see (although this is never actually the case). In addition, the communication style is quick and easy, meaning you can visually share an experience with someone across the globe with a push of a button, rather than spending time finding the perfect angle for a photo and highly editing it before posting, as is the norm on Instagram these days. In addition, there is pressure to be “cool” amongst friends by having a high Snap score, so more interaction with the app equals a higher score, which sadly translates to higher social worth. And of course, features like the Snapstreak seem to have been created simply to make the app more addictive and increase time spent on it.
As with Facebook, users must “add” one another on the app to be connected—meaning each user has control of who can see their snaps and who can chat with them. However, there are other privacy settings that can be changed to ensure that only certain people can send a user snaps or view their story.
Sexting has always been the main concern. The app also comes with many picture filters that can completely alter someone’s appearance, for better or for worse, meaning a user never has to show his/her real appearance. This is not a new concept, but when it comes to issues of self-image and peer validation, it needs to be addressed. Keep in mind also the residual dangers of a user’s choice of friends: Anyone who uses the app to sexually attract other people, slander someone else’s name, or even simply portray vulgar content can always have their privacy settings open, so that anyone—friend or not—can view their Story. This dad also warns that the app can be used by predators to groom and lure users into sex trafficking. Finally, the Discover section is full of ideas from brands that could be influencing your child. Buzzfeed, Comedy Central, Cosmopolitan, and many other brands may be subversively teaching your child how to view the world.
If you can’t log directly into his/her account, no. A user’s “best friends” used to be public, but in keeping with its roots, Snapchat made that information private in 2015. The privacy/secrecy is part of the appeal of the app for younger generations.
There’s something to be said for learning to speak your child’s language and communicate with him/her in a way he/she understands. So for some kids, connecting with them on Snapchat could be the only way you can reach them or the way they prefer to communicate with you. However, younger generations are all about authenticity, so using the app without understanding its nuances and etiquette could actually bother your teens more than help you reach them. And being connected with your child on Snapchat doesn’t mean you can see everything he/she does, so consider doing so carefully. If you’re concerned about inappropriate behavior or relationships, a better approach might be temporarily revoking app privileges and having conversations with them about your concerns until trust is restored.
By having the username and password, an account can be accessed via the app or by computer (with some difficulty, though; the platform is designed for mobile, so snapchat.com doesn’t offer much in the way of account use and access). Be careful—even if you ask your child to remove his/her account, there are many ways to hide it on a phone. As for whether we should access our children’s accounts, absolutely. Especially when dealing with minors, we parents are directly responsible for our children’s social media actions, whether we have prepared and monitored them or not. The decision to let a child access social media does not begin and end with the creation of an account. Our children need help understanding how their reputation, habits, and interactions all have great consequences.
In terms of password-protected settings, no. It’s possible to set up a user’s privacy settings in a more secure way (see images), but if a child has access to his/her account, then he/she can change these settings at any point. Currently, there’s no way to block content from brands, but it’s possible to block other users. More reasons to talk to our kids about the risks of using the app and considering making them wait until a certain age before they can use it. As for setting time limits on the app, check out our Parent’s Guide to iOS and our Parent’s Guide to Android for using the phone’s features to limit a child’s daily use. But always remember to explain why you’re implementing the limits and strongly emphasize that it’s because you want what’s best for them (not because you’re a jerk who hates them).
Each child’s capacity to handle the responsibilities of online interaction grows differently, depending on their journey. A good place to start would be asking them questions like: “What is the number one reason you want a Snapchat?” “Would you be comfortable letting me view what you snap to other people?” or even “Can we be friends on Snapchat?” Back and forth conversation is always a great first step in determining if a child is ready for social media. Allow your child the opportunity to slowly build trust and be responsible while still making it clear that there will be consequences for poor decisions. Ultimately, social media is an earned privilege, not a right.
Conversations are one of the most powerful tools we parents have. Millennials and Gen Z don’t simply accept an idea because it comes from an authority or because that’s the way it’s always been done. Rather, they want to understand the evidence or reasoning behind something before they commit or change their actions. Though this can come across as being bull-headed, stubborn, or confrontational, it’s actually a very good thing! As parents, we simply need to take the time to help them analyze and understand how things like Snapchat are affecting them.
To get the conversations going, here are some topics to address and questions to ask:
Here are instructions for deleting an app (Android and iOS), as well as instructions for deleting the whole account. But please be aware! Simply deleting the app from your child’s device or deleting his/her account doesn’t mean that he/she won’t find ways to access it later. Many parents have mentioned that their teens simply login from a friend’s phone or give their friends their login info so that their friends can use their account and keep streaks going. Or they will simply use a friend’s phone to create a new account, though they will lose their scores and streaks and have to start all over again, which could do more harm than good for their relationship with you. Having a conversation with them about why you think they’re using it inappropriately or how it’s harming them could be much more beneficial than simply reacting out of anger or fear and making them delete their account.
First, wait 24 hours to address the issue. It can be a shock to discover your child doing something inappropriate or that you never thought he/she would do, but taking the time to calm down, think rationally about the situation, and ask God for guidance is worth it. Once you’ve done that, you must address it by talking about it. Start by asking questions and understanding his/her perspective and motivations. From there, show your child why such behavior grieves God, dishonors and disrespects others, and harms him/her. Often, teens engage in such behavior because of pressure to be like everyone else, to be “cool,” or to keep guys interested in them. Usually they haven’t taken the time to consider other outcomes of their behavior, so widening their perspective can help them see the action very differently. And finally, allow your teen to experience the consequences of his/her actions. Examples: Have him/her apologize to those impacted by the behavior, including other teens’ parents. Revoke social media privileges until trust has been reestablished. Don’t allow devices into bedrooms or behind closed doors.
Snapchat is a fun, powerful social media platform. As with any similar platform, there are many risks involved with allowing your child to be on it. But it’s not inherently evil, and with the right guidance and wisdom from you, it can be a fun platform through which your child can connect with friends. Yet accountability is paramount in our tech-based world, and as the parent, you can establish good boundaries and practices that better protect your children. We highly encourage implementing a social media contract in your home, like this one or this one. And for any boundaries you implement, help your children see that those boundaries are motivated by helping your children flourish and live the best life God has for them.
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