Your One Conversation Assessment Results
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This section aims to help you look at current teen culture trends so you can better disciple the teenagers in your life. In the LOOK quadrant (awareness of teen culture), you scored [summary statement here].
Like many parents, you may at times feel overwhelmed or baffled by teen culture and the idea of diving into their world scares you. In most cases you wouldn’t even know where to start. Perhaps you haven’t placed much priority on learning about teen culture, and you don’t spend much time seeking to understand their world. Next steps? Identify informative resources to help you understand the value of teen trends. Further, surround yourself with other parents who have more of a grasp on teen culture to help you find your way.
Like many parents, you sense that a greater understanding of teens’ world will help you understand them and have better conversations. You have a keen desire to understand teen culture, but you may feel like you don’t know where to start. Next steps? Identify some resources that will inform you about teen culture, and surround yourself with other parents who have more of a grasp on teen culture.
You have attempted to learn about teen culture, but it might frustrate you or even feel like a waste of time. Like some parents, you feel disconnected from your teens’ world, and you may feel like learning about it won’t help anyway. As a next step, consider looking for resources that are more informative and can give you a greater understanding of teen culture. Also, connect with other parents who have struggled but ultimately put in the work to become more connected to their teenagers’ world.
You can clearly see value in understanding teen culture and how it can benefit you as a parent. You have even attempted to understand and dive into their world but possibly feel as though you hit a wall. You may wish you had more time to devote to it but struggle to make it happen. As next steps, find easy-to-access resources that can help you have a greater understanding of teen culture. Surround yourself with like-minded parents who can be of mutual encouragement and support to equip one another to have better conversations.
You might be naturally wired to get things done and are intrigued by teen culture, so you already pay attention to it. But you may fail to see how it helps you connect with your teen in the moment. Next steps? Ask your teens more about how living in today’s world makes them feel. Increase your connection with him or her by finding ways to utilize what you know to engage. Surround yourself with other parents who have great connection with their teens, and share what you learn about teen culture.
You see how valuable the time and effort you’ve put into learning about teen culture has been, and you recognize a positive impact on the depth of conversations with your teenagers. You realize that you don’t need to understand everything, but at least being “in the know” has given you greater insight as a parent. Your next steps might be to act as a resource to other parents to encourage them and support them in their journeys. Keep finding to engage your children in conversation while helping other parents to do the same.
The ‘know’ section seeks to help you identify how you can improve in the area of “knowing the topics” to further your discipleship efforts of the teenagers in your life. As for KNOWing the topics, you scored [summary statement here].
Many parents, maybe even you, feel snowed by all the topics relevant to parenting. You may feel you don’t know where to start, and therefore haven’t placed much emphasis on knowing what to address. Perhaps you spend little time trying to understand what’s going on in your teen’s world. Consider looking for resources that introduce topics and affirm their practical value. Join forces with parents you admire who may have a better grasp of difficult topics.
You recognize the value in learning about the tough issues teens face, but you may be dazed by the daunting task of diving into them. Perhaps you’re distracted by how busy life is, or you find yourself asking where you should even start. Take it one step at a time. Start with something that interests both you and your teen to build connection and trust. Surround yourself with other parents who are well versed in the topics and discover how they tackle them with grace.
You may feel you’ve been somewhat informed on a few topics, and the information you’ve had in the past was of little value. You may also feel overwhelmed by the variety of opinions out there, so it’s hard to be motivated. Consider connecting with other parents who can suggest great resources that have worked for them. Start small and work your way through one resource at a time, with a topic you want to learn more about or one that’s a struggle for your teen.
You value learning more about key topics and how they can benefit you as a parent. You have even done some research but maybe hit a wall with so many resources and opinions out there. Perhaps you wish you had more time to devote to it, but time seems to slip away. Look for easy-to-access resources that can help you dig a little deeper into topics or point you in the right direction. Seek out like-minded parents for mutual encouragement and to equip one another to have better teen conversations.
It seems you love to learn about new topics; you might be a natural learner. On the other hand, it appears you might struggle how this learning is helping you connect to your kid’s heart. Look for new resources that can help you connect more on the heart level with your kid(s). Link up with other parents who connect well with their kids and who might gain from your desire to learn.
You dive into knowing tough topics even though it may be hard. You find value in being informed and recognize how it translates to great conversations with your teen(s). Consider being a resource to other parents, encouraging and supporting them in their journey. Also, continue to look for ways to engage your children in the conversation while helping other parents to do the same.
This section seeks to help you see how you can improve by ‘growing with teachers’ – authors, podcasters, video creators, and trusted powerful voices in the Christian community – to aid your discipleship efforts with the teens in your life. In the GROW quadrant (learning), you scored [summary statement here].
Like a lot of others, you may feel overwhelmed and/or too busy to utilize resources to help you in your parenting journey. Adding one more thing to your plate seems too much at this point. In response, you might find simple and easy sources of bite-sized information that can help you navigate a way forward. Also, get connected with other parents you respect who can help you grow as a parent and come alongside you in your efforts to connect with your teen.
You see the value in learning from the best – but life is busy, and things get in the way of growing as you’d like. You may also feel you don’t know where to start and all of the opinions and resources are overwhelming. In response, consider starting small and look for insight on one topic that’s important to both you and your teen. Also, ask other parents for trusted resources that they have found helpful.
You may feel you have just enough information, and the expert advice you’ve received in the past was of little value. Or perhaps you feel overwhelmed by all of the opinions out there and therefore find it hard to be motivated. Consider starting small, working your way through the culture one resource at a time, starting with a topic that interests both you and your teen. Also, get with parents who can walk you through resources that have worked for them.
Like many parents, you see the value in learning from the best, but the busyness of life may hinder you from growing as you’d like. You may have begun to dive into discovering and learning more, but something always seems to keep you from going deeper. In response, look for easy-to-access resources that can help you to grow in knowledge about key topics. Also, surround yourself with like-minded parents so you can support to equip one another.
You might be a natural learner and love to absorb information, but on the flip side it seems like you may struggle with using what you learn to help you connect to your kid’s heart and world. In response, look for resources that can help you connect more on the heart level with your kid(s). Find and intentionally learn from other parents who connect well with their kids, who might benefit from your desire to learn.
You highly value the importance of learning from others and are able to apply it to your parenting. You realize the more you learn, the more equipped you are to have the tough conversations. Now, you might consider being a resource to other parents to encourage and support them in their journeys. Continue to seek ways to engage your teens in the conversation while helping other parents do the same.
This section helps understand how deeply you converse with teenagers in relation to discipleship, working to help you see how to improve in the area of “talking about themes” to further your discipleship efforts of the teenagers in your life. In the TALK quadrant (connecting with your teen), you scored [summary statement here].
If having a conversation with your teen(s) feels daunting, you’re not alone. The teen world can be baffling, and you may even feel out of touch. You may feel doomed even before you start talking. First of all, don’t lose hope! Making a connection is the first step. Find out what they’re into and ask them to tell you about it. Listen, and ask questions. Also, talk with other parents who have been there and get their advice on how to connect more deeply with your teen.
You know how important it is to talk with your teens, and you probably have some rare moments of great dialog. As parents, it’s easy to see moments of opportunity to connect in hindsight. And just making that connection with your teen may feel like a struggle. Think about setting aside time to discover your teen’s heart; learn what they’re into, be in their world and ask open-ended questions. Surround yourself with other parents who have great conversation with their teen(s), and seek out resources on teen culture and positive dialog.
You may feel the meaningful conversations you have with your teen are not as frequent as you wish, leaving you feeling slightly defeated and less motivated. You may also feel overwhelmed by time pressures and the changing world, so it’s hard to be motivated. Unite with other parents who you see connecting with their teens, get their advice or borrow resources. Start small with your teen, talking about common interests, build trust, and forge ahead.
You can clearly see value in learning in having open conversation with your teen. You have even had moments of great conversation but wish there could be more. Life is busy and opportunities are fleeting, despite your desire for a deeper bond with your teen. You might create more space for connection by asking your teen about things that are important to them. Listen, and follow up. Also, surround yourself with like-minded parents for mutual encouragement and support.
While having good dialog with your teen likely feels natural and intuitive, you may feel like you’re not truly connecting with them on a heart level. We feel much more motivated to engage fully when that heart connection is present. Look for new resources that can help you connect more on the heart level with your kid(s). Get tied in with other parents who are great at connecting with their kids and who may benefit from your talent for starting conversation.
You have likely put time and forethought into your relationship with your teen(s). You strive to prepare well, knowing that ongoing conversation about life’s themes is key to having great conversation and getting to the heart of your kid(s). You have a gift. Consider how you might be a resource to other parents, encouraging them and supporting them on their parenting journey. Also, keep looking for new ways to engage and dialog with your teens while helping other parents do the same.