Vol. 3 Issue 02 | January 13, 2017
Three Things This Week
1. Parenting Teens Summit
What it is: Axis is hosting an online parenting conference this February!
Why it’s good: Ravi Zacharias, Tim Keller, John Eldredge, Kathy Koch, John Stonestreet, Kara Powell and a host of other experts will equip you to start conversations with your teen about faith, body-image, failure, pornography, sex, social media, leadership, prayer, college prep and more. Get your free digital seat at the conference today!
2. The Bachelor
Why it’s important: For 21 seasons, The Bachelor has had a fairly discreet attitude toward sex. But this season things are changing as Bustle Magazine calls it the most “sex positive” season in franchise history. Even more disturbing is how The Bachelor portrays women: desperate for relationships, fighting and bickering constantly, emotionally insecure and devastated by rejection, all while willfully playing the role of Disney princess in hopes of winning a man. The show reinforces the lie that girls are only valued if they are physically attractive and sexually aggressive. Ask your daughter how The Bachelor has influenced her views of dating, and if the show is a healthy portrayal of male/female relationships.
3. Golden Globes
What it is: Jimmy Fallon hosted the 74th annual Golden Globes Sunday night as La La Land broke records, capturing seven awards while Casey Affleck took home best actor in the drama Manchester by the Sea.
Why it’s important: Hollywood has never been a bastion of morality, however the arts have always been a bulwark of democratic societies as a transformative, often prophetic voice of individual expression and truth-telling, thus the reason why every totalitarian regime is “terrified of the artist.” And though Meryl Streep came under fire for her politically charged speech, she reminded viewers that it is often the artist or actress who helps us hear others, see others, and build empathy with a world not our own. Great art questions the status quo by revealing beauty. And real beauty, in television or movies, can awaken our imaginations to new ways of being. As Bertolt Brecht said, “Art is not a mirror held up to reality but a hammer with which to shape it.”
How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps*
It’s no secret that teen girls (and boys) have reached an all-time low in body-confidence. How about your daughter? Here are the 10 lies girls tell themselves about their own beauty from Backwards Beauty: How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps by author Jessie Minassian.
1. Believe What You See On Screen: Believe that the images you see every day in the media are 100 percent authentic. Then believe you can and should look like that in real life, all day every day.
2. Get “The Look” at All Costs: Whatever the culture tells you is “hot”, get that look at all costs. Pour everything you have and are into making others believe you’re beautiful.
3. Compare Yourself to Every Other Girl: Let jealousy and pride destroy potentially great friendships.
4. Believe Nasty Words: If people tell you you’re the wrong size, shape, or color, believe them. And if you ever start to feel even good about your body, tear yourself right back down with your own degrading words.
5. Refuse to Take a Compliment: When someone does say you’re beautiful, let them know why they’re dead wrong by blocking, dodging or downplaying any and all compliments.
6. View Your Body as a Power Tool: If a sexy body gives you power over guys, use it to your advantage to get what you want out of a relationship.
7. Eat Junk and Diet, Diet, Diet: Eat whatever you want. If you become overweight, try the latest fad diet or cleanse. Repeat.
8. Adore or Ignore Exercise: Take an extreme view of exercise, making it the highest priority of your life, or viewing it as torture and avoiding it at all costs.
9. Treat Your Scale like a Magic Mirror: Get on that puppy morning and night and ask whether you’re the “lightest of them all.” Make sure to obsess over any changes.
10. Idolize Beauty: Make physical beauty the end-all, highest goal of your life. Serving God and His kingdom can wait until you’ve reached mirror perfection.
Read Backwards Beauty with your daughter and start a lifelong conversation with her about beauty, worth, and body-image.
*Used with Permission.